I see this issue make the rounds occasionally, on tumblr, on twitter, on feminist blogs, and it bugs the crap out of me. Usually because it's someone trying to discredit or deflect requests that people not use misogynist insults like "pussy" and "cunt" by saying "well if that's bad then why aren't you asking people to stop using "dick" as an insult, too?!?" Which is manifest horseshit on several levels.
Firstly, many of the feminists/progressives I know actually *do* frown on all genitalia-related insults. I know plenty of feminists who don't use pussy, cunt, or dick as insulting terms. Quite often, the person at whom the "But what about dick?" (henceforth BWAD) argument is being directed falls into this category already, and the person trying to defend their use of misogynist slurs just hasn't bothered to ask before making arguments based on their assumption. Moral of the story: ask before you base your whole argument on an assumption.
Secondly, context fucking matters. When the use of insults based on genitalia is taking place in a culture that systematically values maleness and denigrates femaleness, using slurs based on the penis (which our culture associates exclusively with masculinity) does not have the same damaging impact that slurs based on the vulva (which our culture associates exclusively with femininity) do. Using "dick" as an insult does not contribute to longstanding, systemic oppression of men, because such oppression simply does not exist. For the same reason that naked dude pictures are not the same as naked lady pictures, "dick" as an insult doesn't do the same kind of cumulative cultural damage that "pussy" and "cunt" do as insults.
Thirdly, are you (where "you" = someone who has asked or is asking BWAD) seriously trying to say that "dick" as an insult is of the same level of severity and carries the same connotation as "pussy" and "cunt"? Really? I'm sorry, are you some kind of pandimensional being speaking to me from an alternate universe? Because that's really the only explanation I can think of for trying to treat all three insults equally.
"Dick" as an insult ranges from mild to moderate intensity depending on the tone of the speaker, and simply means mean or rude, perhaps overly pushy or aggressive. "Pussy" is also mild to moderate, but has a more specific connotation of cowardice and weakness, and going simply on personal observation, a man will be far more offended/upset if you call him a pussy than if you call him a dick. Especially considering that masculinity is actually *supposed* to be aggressive and, to a point, abrasive in this culture, "dick" can be the sort of insult that signals you're doing something to be proud of, in a fucked-up sort of way. "Dick" is still an insult, but it's the sort of insult that leaves one's all-important Masculinity Cred intact. "Pussy", on the other hand, is deliberately calculated to cut deeper by undermining said Masculinity Cred.
And then, of course, there's "cunt". One of the Big Bads of the insult dictionary. Widely acknowledged as the worst thing you can call a woman - or, really, anyone. One of the very few cuss words that is still unacceptable among most people, even people who regularly pepper their (our, cause I'm totally one of them, in case you couldn't tell) speech with "fuck". The one you pull out when you really want to make your point that you have an epic amount of disdain and hate for someone - usually a woman.
One of these things is not like the other ones...
[TW: implied/verbal violence against trans* people]
This is actually an old draft that's been kicking around the Unfinished Thoughts black hole for awhile now, until this post on tumblr revived it the other day. Because it basically expresses the same context-free viewpoint that makes the BWAD argument specious, and I just could not let it go without comment, especially given it dovetailed rather well with an already-mostly-written post. Behold:
Apparently, there are a whole lot of people in this world who have never heard of context before.
Following the same logic, and for the same reason, as the argument against comparing "dick" to "pussy" or "cunt" as insults, "die cis scum" and "die trans scum" are not insults that carry the same social weight. One is an oppressed group basically shouting "fuck you" up at their oppressors, while both groups know full well they don't have the power to do much harm. The other is the group in power, shouting "fuck you" back down the ladder as they continue to kick the people below them in the face. They are not equivalent. They are not equal. Just because they use the same syntactic structure does not mean they are expressing the same kind of sentiment, because the power differential changes things.
Or, to quote an acquaintance of mine on tumblr: When we say "die cis scum", you have your feelings hurt. When you say "die trans scum", we literally end up dead.