... when I saw that ad (the one where the woman is enjoying "post coital bliss" as the guy put it) ...
Wait, guy? What guy?
That sounds like my description of that ad...
Oh. Me. That person is talking about my post. I'm "the guy".
There is nothing on this site that specifically describes me as a woman. But there shouldn't have to be, to remove me from the default class of "guy". "Guy" should be the term you use for someone who positively identifies as a man, not the catchall assumed term. The poster could have said "as the blogger put it" or "as that person said" or something neutral. But instead they chose to say "the guy". Because if you're not immediately, blatantly female...you're a guy. Women are a special class of Not-Men, and everything else is Men.
Perhaps this shouldn't bother me so much. Perhaps I'm taking it too seriously. But it was physically jarring to see myself described as male by a bunch of total strangers in a forum where I wasn't able to stand up and say, Hey, I'm not actually a guy. Just so you know. A woman wrote that.
Does that get any better, easier, less infuriating at least? Or will it always feel like that when you're misgendered online?