You hear a lot of shit about how women who get abortions* are getting them "for convenience". (Most recently brought to mind for me by this thread on tumblr. Yes, tumblr rules my life now.)
I've been pretty open around here about how I am childfree by choice and have no interest in ever having children. But here's the thing: even if I did want children someday, when I got pregnant five years ago, I would still have gotten an abortion. Because...
- I couldn't afford prenatal care or other health-care costs associated w/pregnancy;
- I was on antidepressants which are not compatible with pregnancy, which were keeping me alive and which I'd have had to discontinue taking for the fetus' safety, which would have had the effect of seriously destabilizing my already fragile hold on life and sanity, and which could have ended with suicide;
- I was in college and already struggling, and any further detriment to my school efforts could have been the final straw that got me kicked out;
- The man who donated the other half of the genetic material (he wasn't a "father" anymore than I was a "mother" simply by virtue of accidentally getting pregnant, so I refuse to use that terminology) lived across the country; it was a long-distance relationship and we had no plans to move closer together in the near future, so either A: I'd have been on my own without a partner, or B: we'd have had to have rearranged some very large life circumstances to be close enough together (and no, adoption wouldn't have been an option because of the above items and also I can't imagine giving a child of mine away, so no).
BECAUSE THEY HAVE FUCK ALL TO DO WITH CONVENIENCE.
Prioritizing one's plans for life and one's ability to provide for one's self and possible or potential family over a biological "oops" moment is not about fucking CONVENIENCE. Ask anyone who's had a child; having a baby, even if you don't parent, is a life-changing event. Often also a body-changing event, in ways both permanent and impermanent. It is a Big. Goddamn. Deal.
So if the fucknuggets who churn out anti-choice propaganda would please stop handwaving-away women's goals, dreams, plans, and life circumstances by dismissively referring to it as "convenience", I'd very much appreciate it and maybe not lose my shit so fucking often. Kthx.
*Women are not the only people for whom abortions are sometimes needed medical care; all people with uteruses may fall into this category at some point. However, the rhetoric of anti-choice groups centers on women, so I'm reflecting that in this response.